Sunday, August 23, 2009

Throwing in the towel

After a week with two car beds, I'm ready to throw in the towel. We've had to move someone to the crib in the guest room every single night. Most nights it was Gavin. The one night that Gavin actually fell asleep in the car bed, Emery was determined to wake him up, so she was sent to the guest room. We've tried moving Gavin back to his room after he's sleeping. On these nights, he's been up at 6:30am the next morning, standing over Emery to make sure that she's also awake. On top of all of this, naps have been VERY VERY short (less than 45 minutes today!). I honestly don't care if they get up at 5:30 every day and take 30 minute naps, as long as they aren't crazed maniacs throughout the day!

So, after much consideration, we're not going to force the issue. We are giving Gavin one chance each night to sleep in his bedroom, but the first time he gets out of bed he goes to the crib in the guest room. I just don't think he's ready yet. The temptation is too much for him! We've spent hours and hours giving warnings, returning kids to their beds, and have even tried positive reinforcement (bribery). Emery is pretty good at staying in bed and even points Gavin back to his bed when he is wandering around the room. She likes her space and does not like Gavin to be near her bed!

We've been worried about them sleeping in separate rooms because we will need the other bedroom when the baby is born. After thinking about it, the baby will probably sleep in our room for the first few months, which gives us 6 months or so to transition Gavin back to his bedroom. Maybe a few months will make all the difference. I REALLY hope so!

On top of this, they are both getting their 2 year molars, constantly chewing on their fingers, lots of crankiness, and probably part of the reason for the short naps!

Speaking of naps, Gavin and Emery FINALLY dropped their morning nap and are now taking one nap a day! Once we put the extra shades on the windows (when they were still sleeping in cribs), they fell asleep faster and seemed to sleep better at night. Until this week, they were taking almost 2 hour naps each day. Gavin even slept 3 hours a couple of times! They have never taken a 3 hour nap before this and 2 hour naps were very rare. It was great......while it lasted. Now, I've got to figure out why the heck these kids aren't sleeping!

So, that's why I haven't posted anything in almost a week. I'm TIRED!!!!!!!!!!!! :-)

EDITED TO ADD: Gavin just woke up screaming in his bed after being asleep for an hour 1/2. I gave him some tylenol and sat with him for a few minutes before putting him back in bed. It's gotta be the molars! Maybe we're just fighting too many battles at once. We could make it really interesting and start potty training this week too!

4 comments:

LauraC said...

We threw in the towel and eventually separated my boys too. Then afterwards, we were ALL much happier. But molars and bed transitions = crazy week!!

Quadmama said...

The transition in our house took about a month... mainly because every night turned into a slumber party. What worked for us was having an adult stay in the room until one or all were asleep. The adult makes it clear there's no talking and it's not "play time." We made our transition about a year ago, but I still stay in their room for 5-10 minutes each night to make sure everyone has settled down. Hang in there!

The Adventures of Carrie, Brook, Finn and Reid said...

Oh no!

You poor thing. I remember being really exhausted during this transition (both physically and emotionally) and I wasn't pregnant! Yikes!

It seems like Gavin might just need some more time to adjust, but maybe separating them will benefit everyone. Does Gavin start out in the shared room for naps?

What are your long-term sleep arrangement plans? Will Gavin and the new baby boy share a room? Maybe you could split them up now and then transfer the new baby to Gavin's room when he is sleeping through the night, using it as a good time for him to give his crib away to his new baby brother?

Those molars are horrid. My boys usually sleep 2.5-3 hours for their weekend naps (and we usually have to wake them up) but when their molars were working on popping through, we were lucky to get an hour out of them.

Whatever method you choose, I hope you get some sleep!!

Vandaddy said...

Let Pete read his car books to them. An even better idea is I will send some of my sermon CDs. They work pretty well on Sunday. :)